Saving Barbie

In the midst of the chaos in the world over the last two months (yes, two months that have actually felt like eternity). Our entire world has been turned upside-down, twisted, convoluted and has become unrecognizable. We have gone a very long time not seeing family, distancing from friends and our normal social network.

We have been forced to slow down.

We have been “given” the opportunity to slow down.

I have always worked, I enjoy my path of helping others heal and find their healing journey. I have not had a lot of time to sit idle during this time of corona, I have continued helping others, as well as trying to find a balance. During this time of completely unsettled feelings my life has changed. My daily routines have become different, home life is different, the simple things we enjoy such as taking a drive and visiting family, all of those things that we enjoy now look completely different.

I went from having alone time, to having a partner that is now home 24/7. Talk about a game changer. Learning how to readjust for me, was a little difficult, but here we are several weeks later, laughing and carrying on.

I have found that my chiropractic practice is a place of comfort, a sense of normal and a place where even though I have not been able to hug every person that walks through my door, my office is a place that people come to, to just feel better and feel better about themselves. I MISS HUGS!

The last 8 weeks have been tough, and while spring is blooming, the grass is turning green and birds are singing, I needed a break to recharge my spirit and my soul...

I had no other plans than to get into a vehicle and be the passenger for a day. To be open to what a day of sunshine and new scenery would bring.

It had been many, many months since I had taken a random adventure.  Lester and I dropped off Mike at his meeting, ahh… alone time! FINALLY.

We found a nice hiking trail, we spent some time sitting on rocks, watching the birds, listening to the random, yet deliberate sounds of nature. We found waterfalls, abandoned wells and buildings, then we ended up at a beautiful lake. We hiked up to a glorious sand beach. There, there were a few parents with their children, an older couple holding hands walking the beach, a few boats in the water, as well as a graceful loon and a little family of ducks.  It was a perfect place to spend a couple of hours sitting on a rock with my feet in the water, moving my toes in the sand.

There were no face masks, no worry, just people enjoying the sunshine, warm weather and taking time at their leisure.

Lester and I were greeted by a blonde, curly-haired cutie, wearing the most glorious sundress, and leggings pulled up to her knees. She was spending the afternoon with her dad, he was doing a little fishing and kept apologizing for his daughter disturbing us. Honestly, Lester and I did not mind one bit. She was joyful, talkative, strong-willed and rather funny. Within no time I had a new best friend.

We threw rocks in the water, she gave me gifts of leaves she had found, she had me fix her hair (those curls were truly amazing), we splashed in the water, we walked Lester, and we laughed. Her dad was genuinely kind.

I had  no expectations, no agenda for the day.  I truly, never expected to meet a curly-haired little girl that would be most entertaining.

The highlight of my “mental” health day was saving a beach Barbie who was being forced off the beach to swim, from drowning. I saved beach Barbie too many times to count.  I spent the afternoon with a little girl that made my heart skip a few beats.  There is nothing more pure, more raw than spending time with kids.

Her dad thanked me many times, and when they packed up to leave she looked at her dad and asked if she could hug me bye. He said, YES. THAT WAS THE BEST HUG EVER.

Lester and I had a grand afternoon. We were both tired and our hearts were full.

I needed to recharge, I needed to reconnect, I needed to save Barbie, but in hindsight, the change of the scenery for this one afternoon with the help of a three year old, I saved myself.

In times of uncertainty that can cause great stress, it is important to check-in. Remember to check-in with yourself.  Re-set, Re-chare, Re-establish your priorities and give yourself time and space to heal.

Maybe just go get a Barbie and pitch her into a lake and save her ass, it can be life changing.

All My Best.

Whatever the Weather

Yesterday it was sunny with a warm wind, today is rain that is going to turn into snow as the sun sets, we will wake with a light covering of snow tomorrow morning. The weather here in the northeast changes daily in the spring. It can mimic January to August, in the scope of a few hours, but we know it will never last too long.

We are not fooled by the warmth of the sun, for hours later we can be cover in snow. We know that the northerly wind can freeze water over night till about noon, but it cannot hold on forever. We know that change is what to expect, and even though we may dream warmer days with a warmer breeze before the little black flies hatch, we have to “be” here now.

Weather happens daily, sometimes hourly, some times it rains in the back yard and is sunny in the front (Rainbow Time!!!) But as I just stated, the only time that you can enjoy it is right now. Put on the appropriate gear to keep warm and dry and go enjoy that spring snow storm, go jump in that puddle, go enjoy the sunshine on your skin when that extra layer gets too hot. Go back inside and make tea and soups when the rain makes you cold.

Enjoy the little things that the weather brings to your senses. The warm woolly smell of a sweater, mud tugging on your boots and knowing your feet are dry, bare feet in a barely warm garden, wearing layers that keep you just right in the sun, laying on the ground with the smell of spring earth and last years grasses breaking down, being drowsy and just wanting a little nap. Running for the house in a spring rain shower, but not really upset that you are getting wet, or possibly because it’s absolutely freezing.

What on earth is she getting at you ask?

The moments of nature that you can experience are many and vast, these are just a few I experienced in one day this week. Each moment was fleeting, but they where all joyous, some of it blissful, some allowed for me to be a participant in creating spring in my garden. Other moments had me sheltering indoors, nourishing my body with foods and warmth. Not every moment was comfortable, but I am aware that I am blessed to be able to change my situation, here I could seek the shelter that I needed and then rejoin nature outdoors when the weather changed.

Change allows the discomfort to lead you to where you need to be, or comfort in a new setting, to find the joy, or what makes your soul content. Change is inevitable, it always is. Sometimes change is rapid and sometimes it is slow in coming, but it is coming. Nothing in nature is meant to stay stagnant. In the Spring, the changes in the weather are rapid, so is growth during this time. There changes are not limited to the weather and plant growth, it applies to us as well.

The changes of this spring’s awakening have not been comfortable, but if this were not so, changes that are so baldly needed would not be happening. Changes that give us opportunities to assist in our healing, finding comfort, rest, and growth. These changes are occurring for all of us. Our bodies are being asked to move and get out after the quiet state of winter, and then were thrown into energetically charged time of refection earlier this year. Now, now we get to move forward, just like the Earth in Spring.

How is your journey reflecting the season?

Are you accommodating changes or fighting them?

Have you stopped for a moment to see what possibilities change is trying to bring you too?

You do not have to know the answers to these questions, but maybe give yourself some time in nature, or while you’re sheltering from it to maybe sit with them, and see what opportunities are within the changes that are coming your way.

All My Best

Spring Growth

Watching nature bring back all of life’s colors and start the cycle of growth is a most magical thing to witness. The ground paints itself green one blade of grass at time, then you notice that the green is reaching out to the sun and growing closer to it. Buds on trees swell and start to crack open, letting you see their hints of whites, yellows and greens. Some hardy bulbs shoot forth their flowers even while snow still coats the ground. I think that they cheer on the other flowers who are more hesitant to peek out and see what is going on, letting them know that the time is near.

Here in the northeast, winter holds on a bit tighter, and we get a little impatient for the first spring greens to show. Sometimes, we need to create a little bit of spring life inside, to grow the tender seedlings, so they might have the amount of time that they need to grow and bear fruit in our gardens. We then need to tend them, giving them more soil and bigger containers to continue to grow while the weather outside is too cold, and windy for them to live.

As the temperatures rise and things get warmer, and the winds relent just a bit, we take our little plants outside for a few hours each day. To let them experience the wind and slowly allow the plants to become strong to be able to stand within it. To let them feel the sun, to be able to process it’s energy into the nutrients that it needs, allowing all the cells to slowly learn to work successfully, without getting burned. Then, we give them a break, bring them inside to rest and then start again the next day. After a week or so of this transition, they are able to stay outside and are ready to be planted (I am impatiently waiting for this time right now, but for us it could well be another month.)

Starting inside, giving nutrition, tending to needs, allowing things to build and learn to work properly, resting, being patient…

I didn’t start out to write a metaphor at all, I wanted to share my love of watching spring build life… I guess I did a bit of that too.

Maybe take some time to sit out in nature for a bit, just being in it and a part of it. See how you feel when you are touching the earth and taking in a bit of that energy from the sun and then, go back in and rest when you have need of it. There will be so much more to come when we are prepared and ready for it.

All My Best.

My First Sign Of Spring

I’ve been waiting for the first robin of spring.

I’ve seen the water running underneath its crust of ice, mosses starting to become a brighter green, seen the ground heave and have had the frost crunch and sink under my feet. Still, I’m waiting for that first robin of spring.

I find myself inquiring if anyone else has seen this elusive sight of spring? I have received a lot of no’s and not yet, but many recall maybe that they have heard a friend make mention of it.

I go for walks, start the yearly clean-up of the backyard, and greet the sun while listening to all of the song birds, waiting to hear the robin join in…not yet, I’m still waiting, where is that first robin of spring?

It’s been warm enough to hang out laundry - twice, baby chicks and ducklings should be here next week, and the seeds that my family have planted have all germinated inside, right next to our sunniest window. There is still not a robin insight.

So, today I’ve done the animal chores, checked the email situation, made breakfast, and started to think that it maybe nice enough again to hand out some laundry, oh no I didn’t start the machine…as I walk to the laundry room and glance out the window…oh my, yes!!! There he is! I look about the house to inform everyone that it has finally happened, the robins are returning! Spring is here! There’s one in the garden! However, no one is about at this moment, it’s mine alone, a meeting of Spring just for me. I walk outside, hoping that he is still there, and he is…all in his red-breasted glory, hopping about my dormant garden.

Right now all signs of Spring are to the contrary, snow starts to spit and there are even bits of hail coming down, but I find that my soul is taking solace in this moment. The robin hops and pecks about the bark mulch bordering my garden, gives a quick chirp and a nod, then he is off. I relax and sit in the quiet of this moment, wipe the snow that’s leaving wet, cold kisses on my cheeks and know that spring is on its way.

Maybe next time the robin will be here long enough to pose for a photo, until then I await his return.

What is your sign that Spring is finally here?

Getting Ready to Spring Forward

Spring is nearly here!

My little dog Lester the Whoodle will tell you we should be outside every day! Every moment of every day! To play with the sheep, cow, ducks, and geese! They should also be playing with him regardless of what they would like to be doing! (Wow, that’s a lot of excitement.) Coming inside is a calamity, there is pouting, I get side-eyes and he gives me tail (turning his back to me) so I am emerised in his reticence. However, being his mom, I know that there is a balance that needs to be kept. He needs to eat, sleep, and have downtime. If he does not receive this balance in his life, things will easily go awry!

I also know sometimes after winter, we need to be reminded of this as well. Spring is wonderful, but we need to remain in balance. It’s getting warmer, we are seeing the sun more often and we feel that we are all moving through and out of the winter’s cold and the earth’s slumbering rest. The stagnation and anticipation that occurs as spring slowly comes forth, is coming to an end. And let me tell you, we are excited about the energy and warmth that spring bursts forth! We are ready to get outside for longer periods of time, ready to garden, ready to start playing outdoor sports and getting together more often with friends as the days lengthen. There is just more to do in so many facets of life.

However, we need to remember to take time for ourselves, to have quiet moments, to rest, and not feel like we need to be actively partaking in this change of weather every moment of every day. To nourish ourselves, to allow the foods of the season to give us the nutrition that we need. To remember to take in the calories and hydration that are required to keep our bodies in optimum health and our body’s healing abilities to remain optimal.

Rember, even as spring’s energy is rushing forward, that taking things slowly does not mean we are letting things pass us by, but giving us the opportunity to appreciate what we are surrounded by, to sit with it and have gratitude for it. This gratitude for the little things we take time for creates room for happiness when we repeatedly find ourselves taking time for them daily.

May you find that you are looking forward to fresh air, nourishing food, clean air and a little bit of nature every day. May you also find yourself in the quietude, gathering peace for your soul.

All My Best,

Dr. Nicole